The few days that girls find most difficult each month are like a huge hand that seals themselves in a bottomless abyss. It's better to just lie down in the abyss for a while. I came across the "2019 Chinese Debate Old Friends Tournament Round 2 - If you have superpowers, would you make the person you love also love you, would you use it or not" when I was bored.
My answer is to use it, why not? Free will cannot kill the feeling of love. How can I suppress my id and let him be free? Even if I know that continuing to love will lead to destruction, a bottomless abyss, and a place without burial, I still want to force it this time. But what I really want is just for you to love me once among millions of people. That's why there are 500 years of bowing before the Buddha, and that's why there are those touching and lingering love songs throughout history.
Perhaps you would say that this is just the nature of love. Yes, it is the late stage of love, beyond redemption, not seeking to be saved.
Li Xiuwen said: "I'm going to catch the train, walk the night road, live through the howling dog, and then come back to accept my fate."
Of course, I know that love cannot overcome all difficulties. I know that everyone weighs the pros and cons. I also know that pure love cannot be exchanged for equal love. Idealism will ultimately be killed by realism, and love in reality will also lose. I know that I may eventually move from love to the opposite, accepting the ugliness of love, I accept it, fully accept its cruelty. Just not now.
Just like the last sword thrust by Wang Jingfeng, when the situation of the opposite side of the fourth debate was revealed, no one could listen to what Wang Jingfeng was saying. He knew he would lose, and he knew he couldn't change the outcome. His love could not cross mountains and seas. But he still took the last chance to do his best for a decent exit.
Finally, here is the closing statement from both sides:
Closing statement from the opposing side (Luo Hongkun):
The opposing debater thinks that the matchmaker is unreliable and what if the person I love is a scumbag. So I want to save the person I love. There is a premise here, that is, I am better than the scumbag. But the problem is, it is your confidence that I am better than the scumbag. Where does your confidence come from? It comes from my love for her. But scumbags also think the same way; scumbags also think that I love her, so I have to do these things for her own good. Sometimes our parents also think this way, they think they are good to their children, so they have to do these things for them. So at this time, we must leave some space for the person who is loved, as long as he has the right, the room, and the opportunity to say no, then each of us may find the right way for him.
The opposing debater said it lightly today, he said that once we use this ability, oh (tactical fake voice), can the other party still leave? I don't know if you said these things just for today's debate, or if you have forgotten all the love experiences you have had. If we really love each other, even if the other person abuses me, I may not want to leave. Even if I really decide to leave, but I still love him, I will leave in pain. So, my opposing debater, your superpower adds an extra chip to the other party. If you don't make progress today, he may not like someone who doesn't make progress, and he will break up with you immediately. But if you use your superpower, he will think, "Oh, what should I do? I don't want to be with him, but I love him so much, I don't want to leave." The problem is, in this process, you never learn how to love someone.
So my opposing debater, today we have opened up two perspectives. First, this thing is extremely unfair to the parties involved. You told me that my fate is in my own hands, so I want to use this superpower, but hey! Isn't that person's fate also in his own hands? Is it controlled by you? Your fate is in your hands, I admit it, but why is the fate of the person you love also determined by you? Why is it that with a snap of your fingers, he must love you? This doesn't make sense. Today, my opposing debater is muddying the waters and saying (tactical playful voice), because all love is the sinking of free will, anyway, you can't explain it clearly, so let it go. But the problem is, when there is clearly no free will, why do you become that god, the only true god in the world? You can decide who loves me and who doesn't love me, why? Why is that person the object controlled by God? My opposing debater said it very clearly, I love him, I won't treat him badly. But the problem is, let's ask ourselves, if we really love someone, will we not respect their experiences and feelings? Will we say to that person, you must love me, you can't not love me? Can we say such things? If my opposing debater thinks he can say such things, then I really think he is a scumbag. So your side doesn't have the confidence to say that I will definitely do better than the scumbag, your behavior is definitely harming the parties involved.
Okay, let's talk about yourself after we finish talking about the parties involved. We actually mentioned it just now, in this logic, you are actually the only true god in the world, you are the king of the world. In this relationship of love, love revolves around you. My opposing debater thinks, oh, this kind of thing is so cool, as long as I love him and he doesn't love me, I just need to move my finger and that person will love me. You can enjoy this kind of pleasure, but I want to remind everyone of one thing, when the world revolves around you, you become the loneliest person in the world. When everyone has to nod to you, you don't even know why they have to nod to you. When you use superpowers, at your wedding, when the other person looks into your eyes, and someone asks her, do you love this groom? She is full of joy, she loves him very much, you know, she loves him from the bottom of her heart, but only you know that this love comes from your superpower, not from her choice. In the vast sea of people, she has the opportunity to choose you from so many people, this is recognition for you, this is recognition for me. The reason why I put in effort for him, you can say it's gratitude, you can say it's influence, there is no problem. But the problem is, my opposing debater, you have eliminated the only true and vivid opponent in your love. When there is no such opponent in love, it's very simple, you don't have to worry about this opponent leaving, because her leaving is the only meaning of you keeping her. When the whole world no longer has such a person, when you can make everyone you love love you just by moving your finger, you don't know what it feels like to be loved anymore. Because everyone treats you the same, everyone will give to you, everyone will be good to you, but you never know what they truly love about me—is it my superpower?
Thank you all.
Closing statement from the affirmative side (Wang Jingfeng):
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Falling in love and staying in love are two different things. He has rationality, he can choose to leave you, in the matter of whether to continue living with you, that is where free will comes in, he can leave you even though he still loves you.
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The opposing debater's view of love is a bit problematic. He thinks that the reason I cherish and protect you is because it was difficult for me to pursue you. Or, if you leave me, I am afraid of losing you... The opposing debater, this is not love, this is accounting. If I don't do this or that, he will leave me, and his leaving is the only meaning of me keeping him, so I must keep him. The opposing debater, this is not love, this is comparison.
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Only in areas where science cannot explain, do we resort to mythology.
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Love itself is a form of deprivation. Setting aside this superpower, in real life, every person who loves each other, without exception, hopes with all their efforts that the other person believes, believes that I am the one destined for them. Believe that I am the right person, believe that I am the one most worthy of their love. But how can this be true? There are 7 billion people in this world. So, the love we praise is just a noble lie, a lie that requires us to spend our whole lives maintaining. And the price of this lie is that I deprive the other person of the possibility of falling in love with someone else. So when the other person falls in love with me, love becomes a debt. I owe, because I have erased the other person's infinite possibilities. I owe, because when the other person falls in love with me, they no longer see other people who may also be excellent. And it is precisely this debate topic that gives us superpowers, allowing us to realize this debt, and with this debt in mind, we can better cherish this love, better manage this love, and avoid the harm mentioned by the opposing side.
Falling in love is nothing special, staying in love is what's special.
- How many people go through their whole lives without even tasting the taste of this drug, they can only use their reason to judge, find someone who meets all the criteria to live with. This is the most tragic thing. Today, this superpower is in front of you, and we say, you should use it, use it with the debt in mind, carefully brew this potion for the person you love, and protect him carefully, protect this lie until the end of your life. You say no, I want to return this superpower to the matchmaker, let the matchmaker decide who the person I love will fall in love with. But, who he will fall in love with, whether that person will treat him well or not, whether that person will love him or not, you don't know, how can you trust an unknown person with someone you love so much.
You say you love him very rationally, very restrained. And I say, you love him very weakly, thank you.
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